Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Everything's Changin...

My entire world has literally been turned upside down and blown apart over the last 7 months... 

My marriage ended, badly, he up and left out of the blue, everything I thought I knew was wrong.

The last 7 months have been emotional, chaotic, depressing, stressful, crazy, confusing, unbelievable, expensive, busy, and very dramatic... I am so sick of all the constant drama I could just scream. I miss normalcy and boring. Not that my life has ever been exactly normal...

I moved, again...
I decided the best place for the kids and I was back near family in Colorado! After 13 years of living elsewhere I am back! It is so weird, I grew up in Colorado and left shortly after getting married.  It has been so nice to finally have family nearby, which the kids and I have NEVER had before. My kids see their cousin, aunt, uncle (my brother-in-law), and Oma (Grandma in German, my mom) on an almost daily basis! Also their other set of grandparents are only a few hours away so we will see them more often than we used to as well!
My sister and I have finally gotten our good relationship back! She has become my best friend. All in all I am doing better here! Their is still a butt-load of stress in my life, still in the daunting emotional process of getting divorced... But I will get through it and come out stronger when it is all over.

Friday, June 05, 2015

Landscaping Disaster!

I love my house! I may be in denial but I am really hoping to find a way to keep my house and not have to sell it because I am getting a divorce... However, maintaining the landscaping by myself is proving to be a challenge... I need help taming this mess of shrubbery!! I can't afford to hire someone to do it and doing it all by myself would take me many hours, also I am VERY afraid of what might live in there (spiders, bugs, etc.)… Lizards for sure, but I'm not exactly afraid of them, they do freak me out when they come scurrying out of nowhere!


Monday, May 25, 2015

My Book: Letters and Lies

I'm writing a book titled Letters and Lies, it will be available soon on Amazon! Follow my author page to be notified when it becomes available!

Lettera and Lies is a book about the story of:
Love, Marriage, Husband, Wife, Military Life, Swinging, Manipulation, Adultery, Lies, Polyamory, Deceit, Sex, Deployments, Seduction, Letters, Infidelity, Separation, Forgiveness, Betrayal, Selfishness, Adultery, Divorce and moving on...

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Sunday, May 24, 2015

Sims 4: Creating Ghosts: Death by Fire

I've never mentioned it before on my blog, but I'm a big Sims fan!!! I recently got the Sims 4 game! I have been playing Sims from the beginning! As an avid player of course I sometimes murder my Sims, but not the ones I like, I create new Sims to kill them, ha-ha! I know, it sounds terrible, but it is the only way to get ghosts and now in the Sims 4, live Sims can actually interact with the ghosts and the player can also get control of the ghost. Ghosts are different colors depending on how they die and there are several ways to kill Sims in order to get ghosts. I was playing last night and successfully managed to kill 8 Sims in different ways!

Tuesday, April 07, 2015

My 13 Year Marriage is Over...

Part of me is still in shock and it has been over a month since it happened. The full realization of everything that has occurred over the last month is daunting to say the least...

After 14 years together, 2 weeks before our 13 year anniversary, he left me. We had only spent 10 days together throughout the two months prior. While I was out of town for 5 days visiting my sick grandmother he moved out, then told me on the way home from the airport... I had no idea he was even considering such a thing. He has always said, "I will never leave you, if I was going to leave I would have done it a long time ago".

We bought a house 5 months ago and I might have to sell it at the end of the year when he gets back from deployment. He deploys in a month and for ONCE I can not wait for him to leave. I need to be away from him so I can figure out how to heal and move on. Although I know the kids will miss him, so I feel guilty for wanting him gone...

I am so angry and hurt... I had to watch my children cry when we told them the news... Daddy doesn't live here anymore and we are getting a divorce... However, unfortunately, they are used to him being gone all the time so at least it was an easy transition...


If you noticed my name changes from Mrs. Marine to Trisha Flener on Facebook and Twitter, this is why...

Friday, January 09, 2015

Deployment #9...

Yup, you read the title right...

Hubby will be deploying for the 9th time in a few short months... I must say we have finally had a much needed break from deployments, it has been 4 years since his last! However that does not mean he has been home every night for the last 4 years... It doesnt work that way... It just means over the last four years the longest he has been gone is probably 2 months.

Does that fact make it harder or easier?
I'm not really sure...

Deployments and seperation never get any easier, I only learn how to deal with them better. This deployment will probably be the hardest on the kids, Sissy complains a lot whenever Daddy is gone. Even if he just gets home late, she doesnt like not getting to see him before she goes to bed at night and Booboo needs a man around the house, even though he is mommy's boy, he likes doing the guy stuff with Daddy! Especially going to the hardward store! Haha!

So, yet again, I get to be the single parent, and over summer break too....... Ugh! I'm gonna go crazy!!! You wanna come with me?