Sunday, October 21, 2012
If you begin searching online you will find a lot of different methods for going "No Poo" (Shampoo Free). First off, let me tell you my hair type, because when I first started searching that was the one thing I wanted to know. What works for women with hair like mine?
My hair is very long (middle of my back), naturally curly w/ tight frizzy curls, yet I have thin hair. Also I color my hair regularly and I never use a blow dryer. I live in a humid climate, which also has a lot to do with how hair behaves.
Monday, October 15, 2012
Dear Mrs. Marine,
I’m a new stay at home mom, I want to know, how do you manage? Do you network with other moms? Is it easier over the internet because it is not like walking up to a stranger?
~ Bored Mom
Dear Bored Mom,
When my daughter began preschool my whole world kind of changed. Not only did our routine change but I had somewhere to go five days a week. I would drop her off at school in the morning, then hang around and talk with the other moms who were there. In the afternoon I would get to school early so I could hang out and talk some more. I have made friends with a few of the moms so now I am able to get the daily adult interaction that I need.
I didn't have that in the beginning. I was at home every day with my daughter just sitting around the house. Some days were really boring. We didn’t have anywhere to go and I didn’t have any friends. It makes you feel isolated after a while.
When my daughter was two I found a "Mommy & Me" Gymnastics class that we would go to once a week. My daughter LOVED it and it got us out of the house. I found myself looking forward to it every week, we had so much fun. Any kind of class or playgroup is a great way to get out and socialize. Also most public libraries have "story time" once a week. Although I would much rather talk to someone in person or on the phone, I don’t always have that option, so, I turned to the internet. There are so many resources online to help you connect with other stay at home moms. The number of mom bloggers is constantly growing, along with online communities for moms. It’s easy to find other people to relate to. Blogs are a good way to communicate with other stay at home moms, to feel that someone else understands your life.
If you’re a stay at home mom, you have to find something to break up the monotony. It can be something as simple, and cheap, as having a picnic in your yard, or on the floor in your house (pretend you’re outside). Or craft projects, there are plenty of ideas online. Build a fort in your living room, pretend you’re camping. Children have such great imaginations. Doing anything out of the ordinary at least once a week can help prevent mom and kids from becoming board and restless.
Monday, October 08, 2012
Dear Mrs. Marine,
What kinds of things do you do to make birthdays, holidays and other special days "special" when your spouse can't be there for them?
My son just turned 3 and my husband missed his birthday due to being at a school. My parents came down to celebrate his birthday and we had a little party and let him pick out his cake. He had fun and didn't seem to mind that daddy wasn't there.
Dear Special Days,
My husband has unfortunately missed several birthday’s, my kids were born in the same month, so if he misses one, he misses both, at least its fair. You have the right idea; you had other family there to help you celebrate! The most important thing is that your child feels loved and knows the absent parent is thinking of them. One idea is, if possible, have your spouse make a video with a special birthday/holiday wish ahead of time that the child can watch on the special day! Also, if your spouse is able to send a special gift from wherever they are that is unique to the location, for example, I always like those T-shirts, “Someone who loves me went to Japan and got me this shirt”. During one deployment, my husband bought two little stuffed bears. He slept with them for a few days so they smelled like him and had someone take a picture of himself holding the bears. Then he sent us a package with the bears and emailed me the picture, my kids loved it!
Monday, October 01, 2012
My days/weeks have become pretty monotonous. Wake up at 6:45, get the kids ready, fed and off to school. Come home, do housework or run errands. 2:00 go get the kids from school. Then they have ABA Therapy from 2:30-4:30 at home every day except Wednesday's when school is out at 12:30 and Wednesday's Suck (if you missed that post here is my rant about it). I get the kids at 12:30 and don't get home until 6:00, its always stressful.
My in-laws are coming to visit tomorrow and will be here for a week. They just want to see the kids, they don't really care about doing the touristy stuff, so it's a nice break for me and Hubby. Also Hubby will be on leave the entire time!!! My kids are on fall break from school all week. Their school is year round, so the summer break is shorter and there are two extra week long breaks during the year. One in October and one in April.
Dear Mrs. Marine,
During deployments, do you stay put or do you move back home with family or closer to family?
Dear Stay Put,
Every time a deployment rolls around I get the same question from other wives "are you going home for deployment?" Meaning "home" as in where I am originally from, which to me, that's not my home anymore. My home is wherever we are currently stationed. Out of our 8 deployments so far, I have moved back in with family for 1 of them, only because the initial plan then was we were getting out after the deployment. Obviously that didn’t happen. It made me feel like I lost a sense of my independence. It was nice to have the support of my family, but all in all, I prefer staying put if at all possible. Primarily, I don’t want to uproot my kids from their home. I feel it makes the separation even harder on them.
It seems like many wives think "my husband is deploying so I need to leave too." So they move back with their families for the entire deployment, uprooting children and leaving friends behind. It’s hard for me to understand why anyone would want to do that. Do they feel they can’t survive without their husbands, they can’t be alone? It makes it harder on the wives who stay because not only does your husband leave, but your friend leaves too. It makes everyone want to leave, it’s a domino effect.
In my experience, if you stay put and tough it out, you will find strength and independence you never knew you had. You have to test yourself in order to find out what you’re truly capable of. I have learned so much about myself since I became a Military wife. I am a strong woman and you can be too if you give yourself a chance to spread your wings.