Sunday, September 30, 2012

Where has the time gone???

My house is decorated for Halloween! How is it already October??? (Doesn't feel like it outside because its still 80 degrees every day) Where has the year gone?
My days/weeks have become pretty monotonous. Wake up at 6:45, get the kids ready, fed and off to school. Come home, do housework or run errands. 2:00 go get the kids from school. Then they have ABA Therapy from 2:30-4:30 at home every day except Wednesday's when school is out at 12:30 and Wednesday's Suck (if you missed that post here is my rant about it). I get the kids at 12:30 and don't get home until 6:00, its always stressful.

My in-laws are coming to visit tomorrow and will be here for a week. They just want to see the kids, they don't really care about doing the touristy stuff, so it's a nice break for me and Hubby. Also Hubby will be on leave the entire time!!! My kids are on fall break from school all week. Their school is year round, so the summer break is shorter and there are two extra week long breaks during the year. One in October and one in April.

Stay Put
"Ask Mrs. Marine"

Dear Mrs. Marine,
During deployments, do you stay put or do you move back home with family or closer to family?

~Stay put?

Dear Stay Put,
Every time a deployment rolls around I get the same question from other wives "are you going home for deployment?" Meaning "home" as in where I am originally from, which to me, that's not my home anymore. My home is wherever we are currently stationed. Out of our 8 deployments so far, I have moved back in with family for 1 of them, only because the initial plan then was we were getting out after the deployment. Obviously that didn’t happen. It made me feel like I lost a sense of my independence. It was nice to have the support of my family, but all in all, I prefer staying put if at all possible. Primarily, I don’t want to uproot my kids from their home. I feel it makes the separation even harder on them.

It seems like many wives think "my husband is deploying so I need to leave too." So they move back with their families for the entire deployment, uprooting children and leaving friends behind. It’s hard for me to understand why anyone would want to do that. Do they feel they can’t survive without their husbands, they can’t be alone? It makes it harder on the wives who stay because not only does your husband leave, but your friend leaves too. It makes everyone want to leave, it’s a domino effect.

In my experience, if you stay put and tough it out, you will find strength and independence you never knew you had. You have to test yourself in order to find out what you’re truly capable of. I have learned so much about myself since I became a Military wife. I am a strong woman and you can be too if you give yourself a chance to spread your wings.


Sunday, September 09, 2012

Moving Tips
"Ask Mrs. Marine"

Dear Mrs. Marine,
How do you to transition through a move smoothly? I'm not sure if we are moving this fall or next summer, but I'd like to get a little head start on keeping things orderly. The last move was a mess (my first move with hubs). So if you could share your tips that would be great! Like how can you find a job ahead of time so when you get there you won't be stressed looking for a job? Is there any military spousal support to help you find a job? How do you deal with these moves?

~Moving tips?

Dear Moving Tips,
First important thing to always remember, smile at the lady you see in the mirror and keep your important papers with you! Moving can be stressful, unfortunately there is no sure fire way around that. However, there are simple things you can do to make the move go more smoothly!

Sunday, September 02, 2012

To Move, or Not to Move
"Ask Mrs. Marine"

Dear Mrs. Marine,
My husband wants me to move to NC but I’m not sure if I’m ready because it’s going to be a last minute move and he is getting deployed in March. I’m just not sure if I should go or not and we haven’t found a place yet, plus we have two kids. I’m scared. We have a little over a month and then he will be gone and I’ll be there alone not knowing anyone.

~To Move, or Not to Move

Dear Move or Not,
It’s alright to be scared and uncertain. When we moved to our second duty station I was in your shoes. My husband deployed a week after my daughter and I arrived. It was hard but I got through it. You are stronger than you think you are.