Monday, June 02, 2008

Being a Stay at Home Mom

I got an email the other day from a new SAHM (stay at home mom) who stumbled across my blog. She asked "How do you manage? Do you network with other moms? Is it easier over the internet because it is not like walking up to a stranger?"
I decided to answer her questions on my blog not only help her but hopefully other mom’s as well.Once my daughter began preschool my whole world kind of changed. Not only did our routine change but I had somewhere to go five days a week. I’m not comfortable with her riding the school bus so I take her to and from school every day.
I drop her off in the morning then I hang around and talk with the other moms who are there. In the afternoon I get to school early so I can talk some more. I have made friends with a few of the moms so now I am able to get the daily adult interaction that I need.
I didn't have that in the beginning. I was at home every day with my daughter just sitting around the house. Some days were really boring. We didn’t have anywhere to go and I didn’t have any friends. It makes you feel isolated after a while.
Before we moved here I had found a "Mommy & Me" Gymnastics class that we would go to once a week. My daughter LOVED it and it got us out of the house. I found myself looking forward to it every week. We had so much fun. Any kind of class or playgroup is a great way to get out and socialize. Also most public libraries have "story time" once a week.Although I would much rather talk to someone in person or on the phone, I don’t always have that option. So, I turned to the internet. There are so many resources online to help you connect with other stay at home moms. The number of mom bloggers is constantly growing, along with online communities for moms. It’s easy to find other people to relate to. My blog helps me; I can share whatever I want and get feedback from my readers. Blogs are a good way to get advice and to communicate with other stay at home moms, to feel that someone else understands your life and to let other moms know, there not alone.
My husband has been deployed the last 4 months (he will be home very soon!). When he is gone I am a "married single parent". It’s not easy. I am their sole provider and it’s draining. I am in "mommy mode" from 7 am to 8:30 pm 7 days a week. I don't go anywhere without my kids. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE my kids and I love being a stay at home mom. Anyone in my situation knows what I mean.After a while I guess I just get used to doing it all on my own, everything becomes very routine. Sometimes the days seem to mesh together. Once my daughter began school there was finally some significance to the weekends. When daddy was gone and she wasn't in school Saturday was no different than Wednesday. There was nothing to signify it was a weekend.
If you’re a stay at home mom, you have to find something to break up the monotony. It can be something as simple, and cheap, as having a picnic in your yard, or on the floor in your house (pretend you’re outside). Or craft projects, there are plenty of ideas online. Build a fort in your living room, pretend you’re camping. Children have such great imaginations. Doing anything out of the ordinary at least once a week can help prevent mom and kids from becoming board and restless.

Here are some helpful links to meet other moms:
http://www.raisingthem.com/
http://www.mamasource.com/
http://www.matchingmoms.org/
http://www.myplaydate.com/
http://parentzone.babyzone.com/
http://www.themommiesnetwork.org/
http://sahm.meetup.com/cities/us


Mrs. Marine



Trisha

3 comments:

  1. You can also do a Yahoo Groups search for local mom groups! That is how I made most of my sahm friends. :) tina

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  2. What a great blog! I am a stay at home mum too. My daughter is 6 and now that I am used to her being in school everyday I cherish the time I have for my writing.
    Keep up the great work!

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  3. Although my mom wasn't a military mom, she was a single mom trying to raise my sister and I while she was working. I remember how much she sacrificed and how alone she felt.

    As a parent myself with a stay at home wife/mom, I read your posts and I know exactly how you feel! My wife used to tell me countless times how alone and overwhelmed she felt at times, how she couldn't wait for me to get home from work, and so many other things you touch upon - almost word for word!

    I have a deep admiration for stay at home moms and military wives - thank you for the service and sacrifice you and your family perform for our country!

    I also wonder, like my wife, do a large number of SAHMs and military wives look to keep themselves "busy" with a home based business? What kinds of businesses do they enjoy doing?

    I've written a blog asking these same types of questions and welcome your feedback.

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